My journey with Northwest Justice Project (NJP) started after one of the most traumatic experiences in my life. Years of psychological, emotional, and financial abuse from my husband and the father of my two children had progressed to sexual assault.
My therapist referred me to an organization called LifeWire. It helped me make an appointment at NJP with my advocate, Alison. At the time of my first phone call her, I had already tried to start the divorce on my own. I was failing miserably. I was terrified I would drop it again. I remember at one point thinking: we’ll just have to be married on paper, living our own separate lives because I can’t get this right. I didn’t know up from down when it came to what I needed to do for the divorce. The hearings would be continued because something was incorrect or turned in late.
Finding Calm and Clarity Through Legal Support
Alison realized quickly that I was struggling to stay on track. As a domestic violence survivor, re-living and discussing my past experiences, I can get angry all over again and turn into an emotional vampire. I just know the patience Alison offered was what I needed. There was no panic, frustration or rushing in our meetings. Her presence automatically makes you want to stay calm.
With the trial scheduled, the other party attempted to get a continuance because he was not prepared. We had an idea this would happen, but Alison guided me on how to respond. The judge did not go for his attempt to delay. When he pushed back, she stood her ground and stated, “We are moving forward with the case today.”
The judge approved all of my requests: for divorce; for a 13-year domestic violence protection order and for a protective parenting plan. It made me the primary custodian with sole decision making for my daughters.
I was ecstatic (on the inside). We did it! I did it!
I can’t thank NJP enough for helping me through this unbelievably difficult time. NJP is a rock for women who have experienced domestic violence and need to free themselves. Not all superheroes wear capes. Not all life savers wear scrubs. I hope this organization realizes how profound their impact is on lives.
My children and I have a way to go to become financially independent, but we are in a sense thriving. My daughters are emotionally healthy, achieving in school, talented in their activities and butterflies to friends. We all know this story could’ve gone down a different path. I am saddened by that reality but, my God I am so thankful I was chosen to make it out alive!
*Name has been changed to protect the privacy of the client.